Self Made Man

Picture of the book "Self-Made Man" by Norah Vincent

 

“Self Made Man” is about journalist Norah Vincent’s year and a half living as a man. She got the idea after cross dressing for an evening with a drag king friend and seeing a reality show with a similar theme.

Vincent states that her book should be considered as being similar to a subjective “travel log” kept while taking a long journey abroad. She makes it clear that her book isn’t to be taken as a definitive treatise about all men. It is about her interpretation of her experiences, only.

I’ve seen so many reviews that evaluated her book in the exact opposite manner to her disclaimer and I enjoyed her book so much that I wanted to make that clear before writing about her book further.

Norah Vincent’s journey begins with choosing “Ned” to use as a name, working out to put on fifteen pounds, clothes shopping in drag, getting coaching from a makeup artist friend and getting lessons from a voice coach.

Thus, “Ned” was created. As Ned, Norah Vincent joined a blue collar bowling team, frequented strip clubs, dated straight women, lived in a monastery, held down a high pressure commission only door-to-door sales job and finally joined a Robert Bly styled men’s group.

The first thing that struck me about Norah Vincent’s book was just how feminine her narrative was. As you can see from the picture of her book above, Vincent’s appearance fits the stereotype of a manish lesbian. Indeed, in her book Vincent herself mentioned that all of her life she had been considered a masculine woman, but to her surprise, as “Ned”, she was found to be a little bit effeminate.

My favorite chapter was the one Vincent wrote about dating straight women disguised as “Ned”. Women’s frustrations about the dating scene are expressed copiously all over the place. TV talk shows, movies, magazines, books and even blogs. It is rare that you ever hear men’s frustrations with the dating scene expressed or hear those expressions given legitimacy. I experienced great joy in reading a woman give her account of how she experienced the same things that men do in dating. It was refreshing. In my opinion this chapter was one of the most insightful parts of the entire book. If I started quoting the good bits from that chapter I would end up posting the entire chapter. I think both single women and single men could benefit greatly by reading it. I will settle for posting one quote from that chapter, which I think is one of the most insightful out of the book:

pages 105 – 106

“Perhaps women have been guilty of hubris in this regard. We think of ourselves as emotional masters of the universe. In our world, feelings reign. We have them. We understand them. We cater to them. Men, we think, don’t on all counts. But as I learned among my friends in the bowling league and elsewhere, this is absolutely untrue and absurd. Of course men have a whole range of emotions, just as women do — it’s just that many of them are often silent or underground, invisible to most women’s eyes and ears. Tannen was right enough on that point. Women and men communicate differently, often on entirely different planes. But just as men have failed us, we have failed them. It has been one of our great collective female shortcomings to presume that whatever we do not perceive simply isn’t there, or that whatever is not communicated in our language is not intelligible speech.”

( the bolding is mine )

I also found her chapter on her time in the Robert Bly styled men’s group fascinating. I have long had the prejudice that such groups are silly and I had my suspicions mostly confirmed through Vincent posing as Ned. I found this chapter interesting because it was in this chapter I thought she struggled most with her bias as a woman, her bias from her education as a feminist and her strong desire as a journalist for intellectual honesty.

She wanted the leader of the group, a man of imposing stature, to turn out to be a narrow minded, angry, monster. When he turned out not to be, Vincent was still scared of and resentful of him. Yet at the same time in this chapter, she was being fair to both him and his group. Her internal struggle was fascinating to read.

Despite the subject of the book very little is actually written about crossdressing. There is however, this fascinating quote:

page 187

I was walking taller in my dress clothes. I felt entitled to respect, to command it and get it in a way that Ned never had in slob clothes. The blazer neatly covered any chest or shoulder worries I had, filing me out square and flat in all the right places, allowing me to act with near perfect confidence in my disguise. A suit is an impenetrable signifier of maleness every bit as blinding as the current signifiers of attractiveness in women: blond hair, heavy makeup, emaciated bodies and big tits. A woman can be downright ugly on close inspection, and every desirable part of her can be fake, the product of bleach, silicone and surgery, but if she’s sporting the right signifiers, she’s hot.

I can remember having the same thought in Junior High seeing guys go ape over girls who didn’t have the most pretty faces or interesting bodies, but who had blond hair, intense make-up and large breasts.

In her final chapter Norah Vincent recounts her struggle returning to her normal life after living as “Ned” for 18 months. She mentions that a number of times she let herself get lax in her disguise. Forgetting to apply her fake 5’oclock shadow, forgetting to strap her breasts down with her intentionally undersized sports bra or not wearing the most hyper masculine clothing. Yet, people still saw and treated her as a man.

Vincent credits this to living her role internally, she “became” Ned. After she became “Norah” again in her habits and in her thoughts, people began recognizing her as a woman again.

I thought this was an unappreciated discovery. Vincent in her stint as a door to door salesman also discovered that raw confidence in the face of uncertainty and a willingness to “take control of the situation” could turn failure into success in the absence of any other resources.

I think the golden lesson Vincent didn’t see as gold was that psychologically investing yourself into who you want to be can do a tremendous amount in taking you at least partially there. I’m not saying that you will perfectly reach any particular goal, but that if you throw enough against the wall, something will stick.

All in all, I would say “Self Made Man” was a fun, fascinating and thought provoking book to read. Norah Vincent is a professional writer and it shows. Her writing is skillful, her tone is down to Earth. Vincent had her biases, but she made a palpable struggle to be intellectually honest.

There are many more fascinating aspects to this book that I didn’t mention. I barely scratched a fraction of a percent. I recommend it to everyone.

 

Quit Milk, Survive Cancer

The No Dairy Breast Cancer Prevention Program

The leading cause of death for women between 25 – 75 years of age is cancer. The type of cancer that kills the most women is breast cancer. About 1 out of 10 women will contract breast cancer.

That is a large number of wives, girlfriends, mothers, sisters, friends and coworkers who will be lost to people.

One of these victims was almost Dr. Jane Plant, the first female head of the British Geological Survey and one of the first women hired by the British Geological Survey as a scientist.

Floored by a diagnosis of breast cancer, Dr. Plant decided to respond with what she knew best: science. Part of what the British Geological Survey does is to analyze the relationship between diseases and geographic areas to find links between the disease and what is going on with the land.

Dr. Plant knew from her work that Asians of the far east do not get breast or prostate cancer as often as westerners do. It has been noticed that until recent times Asians tended not to consume milk.

Still having a growing breast cancer tumor threatening her life after having had a mastectomy, several other surgeries, several radiation treatments and chemotherapy Dr. Plant decided to remove all dairy products from her diet.

The tumor began measurably shrinking after a few days and the cancer disappeared from her body not to return.

This story sounds like a fairly typical anecdotal account. What makes this book atypical is that being a breast cancer survivor who is also a scientist Dr. Plant’s book has ample citations from well respected sources to support her beliefs.

Dr. Plant’s strongest argument is that cows and human beings share a hormone in common: Insulin Like Growth Factor 1 ( ILGF-1). This hormone is identical in structure in both cows and humans. Cancer is basically cellular reproduction running amok and ILGF-1 stimulates cellular growth. Higher levels of this hormone in the blood stream have been associated with increased breast and prostate cancer activity. Dairy cows have been systematically bred for centuries to produce more milk, which means that their bodies also produce more ILGF-1, which finds its way into milk. Contemporary dairy production in the US also involves feeding cows a cocktail of various hormones to increase milk production.

The dairy industry has always maintained ILGF-1 in milk is not a problem because ILGF-1 doesn’t survive the human digestion process. In her book Dr. Plant quotes two contemporary studies that show that it is likely ILGF-1 does survive digestion intact and does make it into the human blood stream.

Dairy products and to a lesser extent meat are the dominant sources of ILGF-1 in the diet of most westerners.

Dr. Plant also presents citations for many studies that show possible relationships between cancer and milk. Most of them having little to do with milk fat. Dr. Plant took personal interest in this observation. Like many women she had always made it a point to eat low fat dairy products to avoid potential health issues.

Dr. Plant also gives a fascinating description of how she thinks science works and where she thinks the philosophy of contemporary cancer research has gone astray in terms of good science and has deprived people of freedom from breast cancer.

This book is not dry and maintains the tone of a personal story while being clear without sacrificing rigor with the facts.

The book also gives her personal account of what she went through emotionally and psychologically while she was being treated for cancer.

It has many useful tips for someone else who might be going through the same ordeal. For example, she is convinced that had she known about philosophical differences in the medical culture she could have delayed if not avoided her mastectomy.

Neither a vegetarian or a vegan Dr. Plant concludes her book with a dietary regime for reducing breast ( & prostate) cancer risk. It calls for a vegan diet dominated by organic produce for people who have cancer and as near vegan a diet as people are willing to tolerate to prevent breast ( & prostate) caner.

I found this book to be enjoyable as well as personally empowering. The book has a warm, personal tone. It also plays out like a fascinating detective story of science while giving the reader a lot of information to take charge of their health.

Stranger In A Strange Land

Robert Heinlein was one of the most prominent science fiction writers and “Stranger In A Strange Land” was his flagship book. It contains extremely controversial views about sex, religion and politics with ample helpings of each.

The story opens with the arrival of Valentine Michael Smith at the Bethesda Naval Hospital after being marooned on Mars. Twenty years earlier the best and brightest of Earth had been sent on the first expedition to Mars. The extramarital affair during the mission that resulted in his birth also resulted in the entire crew being murdered in a crime of passion. While Earth was rebuilding after World War III Smith, who never had human contact, was being raised by the Martians.

While struggling to adapt to the heavier gravity of Earth, Smith is kidnapped by his nurse Gillian Boardman — the first human female he has ever seen. Through her boyfriend who is a star reporter, Boardman learns that Smith’s life is in danger. His mother, having invented a new spaceship drive before her death made Smith one of the most wealthy men on Earth. Having been the first human being born on Mars, Smith is the legal owner of the planet according to Earth law.

Smith and Boardman flee to the estate of Jubal Harshaw, the dominant character of the book. Harshaw was a famous public advocacy lawyer and a medical doctor, making him “twice as hard to push around”. Now in his advanced years, Harshaw is the exact opposite of Smith. Worldly, educated, and curmudgeonly he becomes Smith’s teacher as they avoid pursuit by the world government.

What follows is a series of expertly written dialogues between Smith – who is psychologically a Martian and Harshaw ( as well the staff on his estate ), as each learns about the other’s world.

Sexuality, religion, art, politics, human nature and even cannibalism are all called into question.

I first read this book when I was about twelve years old and some of these excellent conversations followed me in my thoughts through the course of my life.

It was in this book, that I first learned that the essence of the fine arts is not photographic reproduction but communicating a message. Harshaw explains why Rodin’s “La Belle Heaulmière” (The Old Courtesan) is one of his favorite pieces of art. Anyone could have carved out a sculpture of a beautiful woman, explains Harshaw, but Rodin was able to make people see the beautiful woman that the old woman once was.

Later in the book, Smith is despondent, despite having become educated about life on Earth. Having been raised by beings that defacto only had one sex and who interact with the dead as mundanely as we buy groceries, Smith just can’t understand humanity.

At a zoo Smith observes a chimpanzee brutally assaulting a smaller of his kind out of the possession of a treat. After sobbing, the smaller chimpanzee then turns on an even smaller member of his kind to do the exact same thing.

Smith brakes out laughing, – for the first time in his life. In a flash of insight Smith sees that the basis of humor is tragedy and that human beings are the only animals that laugh — or that need to. This according Smith, is what makes an animal a human being. Having just laughed, he has taken full possession of his humanity and comes at long last to fully understand people.

You just don’t get fascinating ideas like this in the movies, nor television and especially not on the internet. “Stranger In A Strange Land” is chock full of such interesting observations.

Reading this book again was reading it for the first time.

The content of “Stranger In A Strange Land” is dominated by sex and political intrigue, neither of which I understood when I was twelve. This time around I did not find the sex spooky. I did understand the political intrigue and I did understand Heinlein’s subtle yet damming satire of religion. I thought both were brilliant.

Heinlein was a highly intelligent, creative and stubborn man. He was pro-military, he was anti-draft, he was a strong social libertarian, anti-hippy, sex positive and a strong atheist.

You will get a truly unique mix of views about everything in his book “Stranger In A Strange Land”. Conservative and liberals alike, will be deeply offended. Everyone will be fascinated.

Run, do not walk to your local library.